Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Well everybody, I'm glad I took your advice and didn't say anything to him.

New news...so last night when my friend was telling me all this she mentioned that she asked another friend if she knew anything. Well the other friend said she heard that my H's best friend had gotten with her but no that my H had gotten with her. I didn't think much of it.

Today my best friend asked her husband who is a police officer as well if he knew any of this. He too said that he knew H's best friend had a fling with her but not H. He went on to say that she is not his type, and there is no way my H would be with a girl right after his best friend had something with her.

I hope you're right, but cops have a tendency to stick together. I find it odd that your friend's ex who works there says he did have an affair, but all of his friends say there's no way.

I also wouldn't be surprised if your husband doesn't accuse you of checking up on him, with all of these questions flying around.

So definitely no facts to go on. But I will keep my ears and eyes open.

Just be prepared to find proof, if such a thing did happen.

And you need to make a decision when your head is a bit clearer, about exactly how you will deal with it if you find proof of an affair. You've already said that a PA would be a deal-breaker for you -- are you sure about that, or was it the passion of the moment talking?