I need help please

[newmama]

I think I get the 50% part...they could be acting nice bc they want something or feel guilty, not because they want to R. They could be acting bad because they are unhappy or feel guilty, not because they want to D. Why should we believe anything they do other than end the A???

bestrong, if you have a moody dramaboy on your hands, then don't forget this:
"the best predictor for future behavior is past behavior" If he usually overreacts but calms down later then I bet he'll do the same.

So stay consistent in making changes to yourself, be pleasant to be around when he comes home for Christmas, and do not talk about your relationship during that time! Let him notice how you've improved and then let him beome confused about what he wants!