Giving up the expectation (and the hope) that there is anything about me that is "worth fighting for" from the standpoint of an intimate relationship is an honest assessment of the evidence. That may not fit in with your self-image of yourself AND it fits the evidence and explanation of my life experience.
Guess you're screwed then, huh? Good luck with that whole giving up and being miserable deal. You tell yourself this because it reinforces your misery and requires no big effort or change. . . .but it sucks and you know it sucks. And you don't truly accept it, or you wouldn't be here arguing with me about it.
You're hoping people here will tell you that's bullshit and tell you what in you is worth fighting for. I'll tell you it's bullshit, but I'm not the one you want to hear it from. You want to hear it from your wife, and you won't hear it from her until you show her what you're worth. It's convenient for her right now for you to be this miserable and hate yourself this much, but it's not making her happy. You're both going to have to leave these cozy niches you've grown into to be happy.
