G! It's called less chocolate and less pinot! Duh! But, we'll take your tips!!! Just please don't tell me no more McDonald's french fries!
Luv - Also, my boss is taking all of the Regional Managers (I'm the Midwest Regional Manager), their spouses, and children to Hawaii for a week in March, IF we make our quota for the year (we've doubled in size every year). We have just a little bit left (company-wide), and I have two orders comin' down this week to cover half of it. We're SO close, and I'm not goin' to the islands in a freakin' swim skirt!
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Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I cut out everything with sugar and oily content. If it was fried... it died. Margarine, butter and anything containing them is out.
The only oil I consume is olive oil in salad. I eat as much of anything I want. I eat cheese, bread (sometimes 10 slices a day), pasta whatever. Just as long as there's no oil or sauces in it. For pasta just add parmesan.
You'll find after three weeks you can't stomach the taste of oil and you wonder how the heck you ever liked it. Seriously. I've maintained the weight loss for over two months now, so it's kind of permanent. And BTW up until last year I was ALWAYS a bit overweight and tried numerous diets. Diets don't work. Changing the way you eat does.
me eat bread and pasta? even with nothing on it - my nemesis! I can't eat carbs at all but I'm willing to try it. When I "diet" I don't eat any oil but olive either or fried foods. I usually do higher protein with berries and green veggies. I do good fats like nuts n avocados it seems to work.
I need to exercise - i hate it
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
"I need to exercise - i hate it" <-- Me too! It's against my 'religion' (so to speak)
Pasta is great with a sprinkling of parmesan cheese. For bread here's Gno's secret recipe... Place the bread in the toaster. Take some light yellow cheese, sprinkle it with oregano, add a little salt. Nuke it in the microwave for 40 seconds so it gets nice and melty. Layer it onto the toast... Voila! Healthy replacement for pizza. You can add onion and tomato too if you like.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
wow G, I'm really impressed with all your advice. and I am so glad you didn't hold back a few pages ago, because I agree that Luv, you are overreacting.
BUT, it is because of your bitterness. When I let go of my bitterness, my expectations, and stopped looking to H to make me happy, and to hold my self worth, THAT is when my bitterness left, and THAT is when I noticed those little annoying things weren't annoying anymore. My outlook changed.
You need to let go of those expectations, and this is possibly one of the reasons for this new breakdown in the R. (he is part of it too, but I don't know the whole story). No matter if the M is doing good, you cannot keep expecations. DB is for life. And loving is loving without receiving. Yes, we want to receive love, but we love unconditionally, or we should.
Also, at some point, when you have taken that break and relaxed and are able to reflect... you need to also think about how you may be hurting him. lets say the dinner out for ex. he spent a lot of money, and perhaps he was doing this to try to fix things, or make things better. perhaps you were still bitter (which I know you were) and your appearance, your hand and facial expressions showed discontent and therefore his trying failed.
this is just an example, and I have no idea what he's thinking, but there is a cycle, and as G said, someone needs to break it, and your the one here. And it is SO wonderful that you are here! You have the chance to have the most wonderful M you can ever have! I am a testimony!
Look at it this way, I asked about if you had read For Women Only, and the 5LLs books. This will help explain what I was saying above. Your H is doing things, or keeping things from you and you are extremely hurt by it. Now lets just say you do the exact same thing to him, and it doesn't make that big a deal to him. However, you choose to say no to ML, or you don't do his laundry or whatever it is, perhaps that hurts him much, but if he did that to you, you wouldn't care.
We all talk in different love languages, so somethings we do to one person will extremely hurt them, while it will do nothing for someone else. As well as the reverse...something we do can greatly show love to someone, while doing the same exact thing to another shows nothing.
does this make sense? my point is that, you could unconsciously be doing the same thing to your husband as he is doing to you, but the things your doing to him wouldn't bother you so you don't realize he may be hurting from them.
I did the same thing with my H. his top 5LL was quality time. that's my last one. so whenever I'm on here all night he is really hurt (he won't tell me though, he just gets mad, so then I get hurt and upset...notice a cycle?) But see, if he did that to me, like when he watches his football games, I could care less.
soooooo, after the huge lecture! how are you? and have you started on any of the 6 items G wants you to do? You really do need to listen to him, it will make a difference, and although you need to force yourself, it will only help, not harm, and if you stay where you are, you will find harm. It's okay to be depressed, or have feelings, it's what you do with them and after that matters.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
spaghetti, olive oil and lots of shredded (REAL) parmesan is so so yummy! I like it better than the spaghetti sauce.
so G, your a guy, so that's why you lost so much so fast. I bet if a woman did that, she wouldn't lose as much. we are just made to hold fat so we can be soft and bountiful for our babies!
so, you ate cheese? but not the butter? and what about meat? I would like to hear more about this too. although, I do want my little occasional deserts. I probably eat more sugar than I think though. Did you do the fake sugar, or just cut sugar entirely?
fyi, if any of you girls are drinking diet drinks...that will make you gain weight.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
how are you? and have you started on any of the 6 items G wants you to do? You really do need to listen to him, it will make a difference, and although you need to force yourself, it will only help, not harm, and if you stay where you are, you will find harm. It's okay to be depressed, or have feelings, it's what you do with them and after that matters.