I know this is a horrible decision and a horrible thing you are going through, but can I just throw out there the fact that if you DON'T expose them BEFORE Christmas, then her husband is going to be sneaking off to screw your wife sometime on or around Christmas.
You’re right, DQ, There is never a “good time”.
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec