Psalm 15:2 challenges us to "speak the truth in our hearts." We are to tell ourselves the truth. The truth is you are made in the image of God. You have tremendous value. Your abilities are many. You have scores of characteristics that others admire.
God has not given up on you. The apostle Paul wrote, "I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus" (Phil 1:6). In spite of all that has happened, God still intends to bring you to wholeness. He has strong and positive purposes for your life. You must tell yourself the truth and behave accordingly.
The past cannot be relived. You cannot undo the past. It is futile to reason. That cannot be undone.
We waste our time and energy when we ponder what might have been: "If I had..."or "If he/she had.." We must simply admit failure to ourselves, God and our spouses. Accept God's forgiveness, forgive yourself, and trust that you spouse will do the same.
Beyond that, you cannot deal with the past. You must concentrate on the future, for it is in your hands to shape. Seek to work on what you know are your weaknesses. Explore your interests. Let God teach you new things.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
