Oh, sh$t! New revelation. Help me Puppy! (Not that I am ignoring the other posts)
A couple of weeks after W moved out she mentioned getting an apartment through a-friend-of-a-friend with no lease. I didn’t say anything, but I thought, “How can you afford that?” We’re in business together. The finances are transparent.
Fast forward…this evening she came over to help me hang some cabinet doors (a remodeling project she started before she left). Took about an hour. In the course of conversation she said, “Did you see that Texas vs. Whatever game last night?” I said, “No.” “I as at BIL’s and SIL and DIL were there and you know what big college football fans they are.” And, proceeded to recount the climactic ending to the game.
After she left, I replayed that statement; “I was at BIL’s house”. Now, if she was still living there, BIL’s house was home. She would have said, “SIL and DIL came over.” So I hopped in the car and drove across town at 8:00 p.m. on a Sunday evening. As I pulled into the edition I thought, “Dollars to donuts, her car won’t be there.” I was right.
She’s moved into an apartment. Bill collectors have been calling the house, so I know she’s struggling to pay her share of the bills. If I haven’t mentioned it, but about six weeks ago (before I knew better) I asked her point blank if she was she was having an affair (gut feeling at the time). No wonder she doesn’t want me to know that she moved or where she lives. She knows I have suspicions (although I’ve played like I don’t since).
I’m sure I can find out where she lives. But, if I confront her about OM’s car being parked at her place, she’ll ask how I know where she lives and still give the “we’re just friends” story. This complicates the hell out of things.
What do I do?
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
