Sure enough. After talking with our boys before bedtime, my WAW attacked me about not chit-chatting and being overtly talkative at her apt. when I picked up the boys. I mentioned in my previous post that I just stick to business while being reasonably pleasant. Again, using fewer words than she does, etc.
When we first separated (before DBing) and I picked up boys or she picked up boys, I would almost always be sugar sweet, talk about us and how she could come home anytime, and how we need to end this separation, etc. Maybe she misses my groveling now that I am DBing. Man I was a world class groveler... Sometimes so much she teared up - which I understand from this forum is more about guilt than about feelings for our marriage.
She likes to project onto me that my silence and few words are "anger" I suppose. Really, it is disinterest in her WAW behavior. I am always extremely conscientious of being pleasant and involved with our boys at pickup. These transitions are very hard on our S7 and S4. I wish she could she the devastation she is causing. If she saw a movie of her behavior starring someone else, I believe she would scream at the WAW to get a grip.
Anger is one of her things she likes to project onto me. I believe to keep up the venom in her mind to "justify" the EA/PA.
Thoughts? Is her projecting "anger" just a typical WAW thing?
