Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Thanks Sandi,

It's been a long year. In many ways the worst year of my life. In other ways the best.

I think I am in an unusual (but by far not unique) position on the boards here. My w is not leaving - no way, no how. She has looked at the impact on her lifestyle and has backed away from the brink. The EA is over and she likes the comfortable family life we have together. She doesn't want a D. At the same time she is unrepentant, full of blame, and hasn't changed her position on a r with me. She hasn't taken responsibility for anything she has done and continues to claim (whenever asked) that there can never be a good M between us.

I, On the other hand, have gone from clinging desperately, to being on the brink of walking away.

But for now, there is a truce. Her mother is dying of cancer and I am going to support her through this. Later we both have decisions to make, but for now she is my wife and she needs my support.