Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Im in need of desperate help. You were all right. Found out last night there was OW.

I'm sorry, Britt. *hug*

Believe it or not, we don't like to be right about such things.

Supposedly its over now. But who knows. I heard this from a friend whos ex works with H. She doesnt know he it was just emotional and hanging out and flirting or if it got physical. She just knew there was something going on. I am devastated and at a loss for words. The man just moved home and I find this out. Now what?

That is for you to decide. I would hate to see you throw away the weeks and weeks of effort you've put in, but you have your self-respect and dignity to think of. Not to mention your kids.

Listen to everyone else; you are getting really good advice.

It is possible to forgive an affair, but PDT and the others are right; he must agree to transparency if there is any chance of things to work. He violated his commitment to you, and there must be some kind of penalty.