Sorry, forgot, I got another text from him about 45 minutes after first one "Guess your not going to respond?". LOL, nothing else left to say so no i definitely will not be responding ever again.
AFG,
So sorry you've experienced this. Your H doesn't deserve you.
Right now is the time to summon your inner queen. A Queen is above it all: the petty interactions, the grimy peasants and their disease-ridden wenches, etc. A Queen, however, is secure in her personal power, and *that's* why she can rise above it all.
After all, a queen would not argue with someone beneath her. She would simply make the best decision for herself and her kingdom *no matter what* antics anyone threw her way.
That's not to say that the Queen doesn't rail and scream and weep in private. She has a heart--a big one--and sometimes things hurt. But she never shows that to the one who's wounding her. She just draws her boundaries with a detached but firm air, and lets what happens, happen.
YOU are dignified; YOU have self-respect and respect for your vows. When you *do* have to interact with H, remember that. Practice the amused smile, the checking your watch, the "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I have decided X."
You are a strong woman; I don't think I could have maintained that kind of self-control. I have no doubt that YOU will be 100% fine--and a stronger, better human being--in the end.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
