Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

Now after learning how to do NC the right way (since I was doing it all wrong) I need to decide which would be best. I always get confused after the kids have contact/spend time with him because of the contact I have with him to arrange it.

I was thinking of starting w Plan A letter to get out of this limbo. He may not answer, but then when I go NC, he will know why. But first, I'm thinking of sending WAH this email:

"The kids have told me that you have said to them that 'we are working on our relationship.' They understand this as we are trying to get back together.

I don't find it fair for you to say that to them and give them false hopes of something that is not being worked on. If you truly mean it, I would need to know this to be able to work on a reconciliation."

I'd appreciate input on whether I should send it.