Think OW is here in my house right now!

[DownNotOut...yet]

What next? Did you tell her don't bring yourself back here again?

Now that introductions have been made and you guys are all friendly. What are the three of you going to have for dinner tonight?

Seriously, I can't believe what just went down either. Instead of police, how about calling movers? Or big brothers, relatives, friends from softball; it is time for his stuff to go out on the curb.

What are you going to do so this doesn't happen again?

[Greek]

Ummmm...you're not answering that text.

What next?

Do you have a lawyer? Are you divorcing him or are you still working on things? I read back through your thread to get a feel for where you are, but catch me up. Are you done or what? Seems to me that if you were not done before, you should be now. AFG ~~~ what he has done is unbelievable ABUSE and DISRESPECT and beyond the pale of anything that I have EVER heard of EVER!

He is SORRY he caught you off guard with all THIS. THAT is what he is SORRY for???? Off guard - like "Gee, should have given you notice. Regret that I didn't." He is a disrespectful man-child who does not deserve anymore tolerance from YOU.

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[Greek]

how about calling movers? Or big brothers, relatives, friends from softball; it is time for his stuff to go out on the curb.

Yep! Call in the calvary. Know any guys who will help you pack his stuff in boxes and into the garage? Got a brother in town who will guard the door so the SOB doesn't waltz back in - b/c his entitled a$$ will think he can. You know he thinks you aren't going to do anything. He proved that by pulling off what he just did and then THANKING YOU FOR BEING CALM.

AFG ~~~ boil the ocean on this guy.

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[Dudess]

how about calling movers? Or big brothers, relatives, friends from softball; it is time for his stuff to go out on the curb.

Yep! Call in the calvary. Know any guys who will help you pack his stuff in boxes and into the garage?

Forget boxes, forget the garage, don't even take it all the way to the curb. Throw his stuff in garbage bags and toss it out on the lawn.

[CityGirl]

I hope you take all these suggestions and have him packed up by the end of the day. I also hope you call an attny first thing in the morning. And I *really* hope you don't respond to the text or any other form of contact with your H.

Go totally dark, get your ducks in a row, share NOTHING with him and seek legal counsel.

My H has pulled some stunts but this is beyond horrid and so disrespectful it's not even within my realm of understanding. I do understand though. My H went on a vacation with OW funded by HER BROTHER while he and I were supposed to be working on a settlement of our assets. He didn't tell me he was going until he was on the plane then suggested to be via e-mail that once he got OW to bed he would get online and we could work on the settlement during his vacation. LOL! That was when my attny stepped in and took over. Now I have 80% of our assets, 1/3 of his after tax income per month and health/dental/vision for the next three years along with all my legal fees paid and I kept the apartment and all our possessions

The WAS "script" is one thing. Tolerating emotional abuse is another. I am sorry you had to experience such a thing.

[Greek]

He didn't tell me he was going until he was on the plane then suggested to be via e-mail that once he got OW to bed he would get online and we could work on the settlement during his vacation. LOL! That was when my attny stepped in and took over. Now I have 80% of our assets, 1/3 of his after tax income per month and health/dental/vision for the next three years along with all my legal fees paid and I kept the apartment and all our possessions

^^^ And that is how the Big Girls play ball, AFG. Take a page out of CityGirl's book and follow suit, my friend.

Only one reason your Einstein of a H would be so bold as he has and that is he THINKS you won't do anything. How WRONG is he, AFG?! Show the genius how wrong he is. He has really made an off the charts stupid move.

Definitely go dark. Really - there is nothing left to say to HIM. Your L will do all of the talking with HIM.

Sending strength and honor vibes your way, little sister.
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[pearlharbr]

AFG, I'm a newcomer to your sitch but will try to get caught up.

This is the time to take a stand. Get him out of your house now. Because if you let him get away with this it will only get worse (and I'm horrified at thinking about what could be worse than what just happened).

Sending good thoughts your way.

[aflowergurlie]

Hi everyone - thank you all so very much for weighing in on this extremely crazy day. I'm going to post the play by play later on today/tonight. I'm at my parents house right now trying to figure out my next moves. As much as I'd love to do a retaliation move right now of putting his crap to the curb, don't know if that will help my legal case/stand. Consulting with a lawyer tomorrow.

[aflowergurlie]

Sorry, forgot, I got another text from him about 45 minutes after first one "Guess your not going to respond?". LOL, nothing else left to say so no i definitely will not be responding ever again.

[orangedog]

This is so disrepectful. Unbelievable. Stay strong.