ssmguy...You are the only one in your discussion who believes your situation to be hopeless, and you are the only one in your discussion who believes others are telling you to divorce.
you said: "So, interesting to think about, because it's probably so different from other marriages, perhaps even other SSM marriages where the HD partner is feeling rejected."
And once again, you are trying to point out where your situation is unique, even though it is not. Were you saying yours is unique here because your wife is kind to animals? I'm so confused about what point you were even making about your situation being different. It seems you will throw out there the "our situation is different" on nearly any whim.
So here we are, you believe you've "tried everything" and that nothing else could possibly be done to change your situation, and you believe that all of us who are trying to help you actually have a hidden agenda to try to get you divorced as soon as possible (as if maybe we get a toaster for each new divorce recruit we can find).
Are either one of these assumptions even logical? That your situation is unique, or that we just want to see you divorced?
Lets see....I've personally read about 200 or so cases of ssm, and ALL of them had the same components that yours does, and I've personally counseled at least that many people to help them with relationship issues and to avoid divorce.
Is this the best you've got? "My situation is unique and you divorce-pushing meanies don't understand it!" Wow, that's quite an argument. I guess, I'll have to just accept you at your word, that you've made up your mind to do things your way, that there is no way to change your sitch because its just so dang unique and you've tried everything anyway.
Let us know how your plan goes and how happy its making you. Maybe you could advise us on our situations instead? Oh wait, your situation is so unique I guess you wouldn't know what a usual situation should do.
