Im here. Okay I will stick with my plan. You are all right I dont really have any evidence at all except what I heard through three people. Im really irate. If this is true then its over but IF its not then hopefully this plan works. Thanks everybody. I just dont know how to go about my business with my H back in the house all while knowing this information.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Britt, does your husband have a history of abusive or violent behavior? has he ever been verbally or physically abusive towards you or your children? violent towards other men?
his drinking habits, does he have a tendency of losing his common sense when he is drinking, meaning he becomes abusive, violent, demeaning or hurtful, esp. towards you?
in your marriage, has there ever been some other man that paid attention to you? if so, how jealous did your husband become and what were his actions?
his recent controlling behavior towards you, has this been typical throughout your marriage?
I think it would be important that we know this about him now that you found out the obvious ...
I just mean the relationship is over. I cant be with him after he has been with someone else. I also remember the friend telling me that the reason they re done is cause she wouldnt have sex with him. Brings tears to my eyes and makes me feel empty. Its one thing to leave me and another to leave me for another woman. My stomach is in knots I dont know if I can go without saying anything
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Not violent or physical to anyone off the hockey ice. When he drinks he gets mean. His dad is an alcoholic and gets mean too. Not a jealous person at all even when I get attention paid to me. He has a very controlling personality but only with certain things. Also a trait from his dad.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
Britt, take the kids and get out of the house. You need a breather and some time to process this new information. Your deal-breaker is identical to my own. Do not confront him or ask him anything at this moment. You need to be stable, cool, calm and firm when you do.
By all means, dig deeper and get your answer from others. Be discreet. Remember I told you about how everyone else will know but you? Well, start with confronting your other friends. Get more information.
In the meantime, get yourself spruced up and take the kids out for a fun day.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
How long is it going to take to get to the calm state.
Wish I could give you an honest answer... No one knows because we are all different and have different anger thresholds.
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Right now I feel like I am going to explode in his face.
I know. This is why you need to get out of there before you see him because you won't be able to hold your tongue. Avoid seeing or speaking to him for at least 24 to 48 hours.
Well my friend from out of town is here so we are just going to hang out. We got a big snow storm yesterday so I dont want to take the boys out. So hopefully he wakes up from his sleep and leaves for work. Anger not going away. Pain of thinking he may have left and come back home for the right reasons only to find out he may have left for OW and came back cause it didnt work out still not gone.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
WARNING, WARNING, toxic environment detected. Your state is highly volatile. Contact with catalyst H will result in nuclear meltdown. Eject agent Britt, EJECT beffffff_______________
