Think OW is here in my house right now!

[DownNotOut...yet]

You call them. What is there to question.

This is craziness you cannot allow it.

It also smells like a test. If you allow this, there are no limits to how low you can go.

[Greek]

Why the police? Isn't this his house, too??? So I don't know what they can do.

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[CityGirl]

You gave him 10 minutes. Wait 10 minutes then knock on the door again and tell him that he and his GF must vacate at once. I would also have a digital camera ready that timestamps the photos and snap one so you have "evidence". Not that you will use it but it will shake your H up and perhaps make him think twice about bringing his affair home.

This is the ultimate act of disrespect and while it might be difficult you must set a firm boundary and if H does not adhere then you must enforce the boundary. Don't act crazy, be firm, polite, civil and don't show any emotion. I would also tell him that he has 24 hours to move out until you decide how to handle things from here on out. Yes, it may be his house but with the hardcore evidence you now have you hold a tremendous amount of power. Use it wisely and avoid any emotional outbursts.

[Greek]

You gave him 10 minutes. Wait 10 minutes then knock on the door again and tell him that he and his GF must vacate at once. I would also have a digital camera ready that timestamps the photos and snap one so you have "evidence". Not that you will use it but it will shake your H up and perhaps make him think twice about bringing his affair home.

This is the ultimate act of disrespect and while it might be difficult you must set a firm boundary and if H does not adhere then you must enforce the boundary. Don't act crazy, be firm, polite, civil and don't show any emotion. I would also tell him that he has 24 hours to move out until you decide how to handle things from here on out. Yes, it may be his house but with the hardcore evidence you now have you hold a tremendous amount of power. Use it wisely and avoid any emotional outbursts.

^This. Yes. Do this.

Let me punch him!!!!!
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[DownNotOut...yet]

Some stand has to be made. If not police what? On this board I hate to tell a person to walk but something has to give. Leaving seems like admitting defeat. I am sorry, in this instance, if the police cannot be called, I have to admit I would probably wind up doing something that would require they are called

I certainly thing flower should ask/tell the OW to leave her house. IF the OW doesn't leave, I would still call the police and let them sort it out between the three of them.

Then on Monday go try to get yourself a restraining order to keep the woman out of your house. I am not a lawyer but there must be some kind of precedence for this kind of stuff.

[mindfull]

Right behind Greek w/fist clenched!

[Greek]

Maybe it would be worth it to call the police after ten minutes - if he hasn't left with the ho - just in case one or both of them gets crazy. That's what you could tell the cops - "Hey - my H has his OW in our home and I've given them ten minutes to get out. Could you be here to make sure I am safe while they leave." I would do that.
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[aflowergurlie]

OMG - ok - so didn't need to call police - they just left
and she is OMG nasty!!!!! i can't even believe it - lol - i think she is older than me!!!! anyways - i just said Hi I'm AFG and she said Hi I'm **** as she was walking out - H thought I was going to make a big scene - H said Bye to me from the garage.... I'm like can't even freaking believe what just went down.

[Greek]

What next, AFG? He's gotta go, girl.
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[aflowergurlie]

Sorry, just got off phone with MomInLaw - I'm still in such shock and disbelief right now - adrenaline pumping through me.

CAN U BELIEVE THIS?? - I JUST GOT A TEXT FROM H WHILE HE IS DRIVING OW TO WHEREVER THEY ARE GOING - "Thank you for being calm. Sorry if I caught you off guard with all this."