Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

I'm shaking and trying to control myself. Everything in my being is telling me that H has his GF here in his room right now.

For those following my post here is what has happened since my last post on Monday of this past week.

Tuesday night - Watched tv in the living room with H for a few minutes and then went to my room and went to bed.

Wednesday - Didn't see H at all. When I got home from work could tell he had already packed and then was gone for the night.

Thursday - Saw H briefly in the evening. I asked to borrow his GNC gold card and he said sure. Then I went to my room to go to bed. Little while later he knocked on my door and handed me his gold card.

Friday - H got home after work in the evening. H was then cleaning his room, doing all of his laundry and then cleaning his bathroom (already made me think something was up). I made dinner and cleaned kitchen afterwards. H says to me "You have any big plans this weekend?" AFG smiles slyly "You never can tell what will happen." H "Well, I might have some people over tomorrow." I didn't say another word. Finished what I was doing and started getting ready to go out.

Left my bedroom door open with music playing in the living room and throughout the house. H comes in my room and startles me. Has his clippers in his hand. Asks me if I would do him a favor and clip his back for him. I say "I guess so." He comes in my bathroom and I clip his back quickly for him. (This time I didn't touch him with my hands at all though, good girl AFG.) During which, my phone is ringing and being texted. H leaves my room. I keep getting ready. Shut door so I can iron a shirt and have only bra on. H knocks on my door again. Just wants to tell me something about the music playing. Then I ask him about changing my oil. H says "I'll pull your car in the garage and check it right now. I'll change it for you later if you want." AFG "How much is that gonna cost?" H "We can work out some sort of barter." AFG "I'd like to know the terms of the barter before I have you do it." H "I'm sure I can come up with something innocent."

Little while later I'm ready to leave, go to leave and my car is in the garage, but H's truck is pulled in behind me now, H had pulled it out into the street before, and is semi-blocking me from getting out. It looked deliberate and my immediate thought was that H set it up sot I was going to have to ask H to move his truck before I could leave and H would have to walk by and see if I had luggage/overnight stuff in the car with me and know an estimate of how long I was planning on being gone for.

Tried to pull out and was having difficulty but finally got out of garage without H moving his truck. I was gone Friday night and all day yesterday. Got home at midnight last night. H wasn't home but I could tell he had been there and looked like he might be planning to return. Kitchen light was left on. Some dishes in the sink from food eaten, etc. But no other indications that he had been entertaining "some people". Here's where I started questioning things; 1) H had closed my bedroom door 2) H's bedroom door was closed as well. We both pretty much always leave our doors half-way to fully open when we're not home.

Why would H need to do this now? If H had brought OW here and her stuff is in his room and out of respect for my room he closed both doors is the only logical reasoning I could come up with.

I woke this morning thinking maybe H hadn't come home last night. I went to the kitchen to get some water and when I walked out of my bedroom the smell of perfume and cigarettes was permeating the house. His bedroom door was still closed. Go to the garage and his truck is in the garage. And then this completely unsettling and unnerving feeling completely came over me that she is in this house right now.

Just a little while ago - I got completely dressed and ready. Have been in the kitchen and made breakfast and did dishes and now have my bedroom door open. Heard someone get up to use his bathroom and closed H's door behind them. I went to kitchen to wait and see who it was. It was H but why did he have to close his bedroom door while he was using the bathroom? He never does that.

I'm trying to settle myself down to figure best way to handle this. Do I text him "Would like to speak with you right away?" and then ask him if she is here? Or just go knock on his door or what?!?

I would probably say to him in the most controlled and precise manner possible "I feel like I've been put into an extremely awkward and uncomfortable situation and that my previous request to you in not bringing your GF here has been ignored and you have completely disrespected me now. I am giving you 10 minutes to have her leave this house or I will be contacting law enforcement for their help."

Any help right now is greatly appreciated!

[DownNotOut...yet]

So GO DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Greek]

#1 Dignity. AFG ~ Whatever you decide to do, you'll remember those moments for the rest of your life and you want to be proud of yourself for being a dignified and strong woman.

#2 If I were in your shoes, AFG...I would knock on that door, open it, bust 'em and tell them both they have five minutes to get out, the clock is ticking. Close the door, go downstairs, have your coffee.

That's a start.
Sorry, AFG. This is just about the worst thing I've ever read happening to someone on these boards. Wish I could punch him for you.

Greek

[Lost Rabbit]

If she is there I certainly would be asking that she leaves straight away! Huge (())) as it must be horrible for you! Hope you get it sorted.

[aflowergurlie]

Ok - so I'm trying to think of a reason that I am knocking on his door if it turns out there isn't someone here.

[Greek]

NO REASON. Just knock. Open. See what's going on and that's that with that. If he's alone, just say..."Good morning."
Do it.

[pearlharbr]

I agree with Greek's #2 method. That is the most horrible thing I have ever heard. I found out my BF had sex with his OW in my house when I was out of town and that alone made me want to kill him.

Stand up for yourself and get them both out of your house.

[DownNotOut...yet]

I agree also. Perhaps worst lack of respect ever. Go confront this.

[Greek]

Right here waiting on ya. Let us know you're ok.
Greek

[aflowergurlie]

OMG - H just came out of his room in kitchen - I asked him if she was here - said yes - i told him he had 10 minutes to leave - went through all the crap he's not going to do for me anymore - said to give him an hour - went in his room and locked door - i'm ready to call law enforcement now!! what do i do?