it's about power Frank

You make her the villian of your life and of your girls' lives

by making her the villian
you give her loads of power

you can listen but it feels like you almost enjoy the connection that this commiserating brings

dangerous road
you are not their friend
you are their dad

encourage them to talk to their mom about the issues they have with their mom

because I am sure there are issues they have with you that they don't talk to you about but that they talk to their mom about

the only hero
and
the only villian
in your story

should be yourself