Back to finding out the truth - I have read so many stories about infidelity over the last few months - and they all seee to follow the same pattern - my story seems to be the odd one out and I want to find out why.
Usually this is how it works:
- WS has affair (PA or EA) - BS either finds out or WS confesses(not as common) - either WS moves out and continues affair with OP or WS stops affair, is remorseful and starts recovery with BS. In some cases WS starts false recovery with BS while still having taken the affair underground.
Now my story:
WS(?) tells BS how unhappy he is and threatens separation because of money / business isssues - WS(?) tells BS about close friendship with co-worker but denies any affair with her or anyone else - BS becomes suspicious but has no proof - 4 weeks later WS(?) declares himself "separated" and takes wedding ring off but still wants to "date" BS to see if he can rekindle anything between them - BS can't let go of suspiscion of affair with co-worker but still has no proof - again 4 weeks later WS(?) separates for good from BS and is planning on telling the kids.6 days after separation BS sends PI over to WS(?) and finds him on what looks like his first date with another woman which is not the co-worker. BS confronts WS and he denies dating the woman - he says she is potential tenant for his flat - again 4 weeks later BS loggs into IM of WS and confirms that they are in fact dating - BS doesn't confront WS - 1 week later WS asks BS for another go - again dating only, no reconciliation - BS can see on his IM that the dating seems to be over with the other woman but they still talk as friends - BS is waiting for WS to confess about his dating - he doesn't and continues to say he never dated anyone - last try between BS and Ws comes to an end as BS can't handle the lies - a few days later BS finally tells WS that she knew about his dating all along and WS completly blows up - and never wants to reconcile again - probably because BS was for the first time able to proof his lies.
And that's the reason I am looking for the truth - from day 1 on WS showed all signs of a typical cheater - he read from the same WS script as everyone else - I want to know why the first affair ended and why he chose to date woman number 2 instead of reconciling with me.I also want to know why affair number 2 ended so quickly.
