First time poster feeling a bit lost

[MT21]

SANDI is wise and gave you great advise. Read her post again.

This is very important

Listen carefully here....in the past her problems were your problems b/c you were her H and that's just how it is in a MR. However, at this point you allow her problems to be hers and not your....okay? That's very important, and you will come to understand why more and more as we go along.

Sandi,

Am I right in saying that this is part of her having her cake and eating it? Can you explain a little more?

Thanks

MT