What is your opinion on her wanting me to move out so she can have the house for a change? She hates living with the person she is with right now. (a friend)
Her being the one to leave the house is one of the consequences of her bad decisions she's made. Why should you give up your home b/c she doesn't like her room mate? That is very self-centered of her. But not uncommon at all for WAW's. So, be very firm about your stand on the housing situation.
Do you think you could handle in-house separation? Many couples do it due to finances. But if she is dating.....it would be extremely hard, but there would be some "advantages" if the two of you were under the same roof. However, you need to have boundaries set in place and if she can't abide by those, then she needs to stay where she is or find another place.
If she comes back to the house, do not give up your bedroom and especially your bed. She gave that up and should not be treated like she was a queen returning to her throne.
We can talk more about romancing later. It would probably need to be done quite differently living under the same roof (if that came about). Is you house large enough that she would have some personal space? Has she ever hinted that the two of you could live under the same roof and be M separated?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
