If I picture my wife suddenly wanting to make love to me, I would wonder if she was drunk, or had taken a wrong pill, or had a brain stroke. Or I would seriously wonder what other shoe was going to drop, as if she were trying to soften me up for some really bad news she hadn't told me yet, like she just totalled the new car or something.
Do you still find your wife attractive? I wonder if part of your resistance here is that you fear it may be possible to turn this SSM around, but you're not actually sure that you want to.
Years of rejection can't be gold for your feelings of attraction and intimacy for each other?
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
