Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

I was in our family email today and we got an email inviting the family to the "Police Family Christmas Party". I clicked on the "sent" messages folder and sure enough he rsvp'd for the two boys and himself. Not me....hmmm. Now I'm really wondering why he is here. If he was here to get this family back together, would he not want me to be there?

Let me know how that mind-reading works out for you.

You can't interpret his actions through your idea of what should be normal, or expected, right now. Maybe he just wasn't thinking. Maybe he doesn't want you to go so as to avoid uncomfortable questions about the two of you. Maybe he's going to hook up with someone else, either at the party or afterwards.

I mean the guy moved back home, woke up early today on work day number 3 and hung out with us as a family, asked us to go for supper together as a family, told S3 he lives here now and stays here every single night, but doesn't include me in the FAMILY CHRISTMAS PARTY? I don't get it.

Here's a crazy thought: ASK HIM.

Is the original email still in the public inbox? If so, just ask him about the party and say that you were going to RSVP but that you saw he responded, but just for him and the kids. Was it an oversight, or did he mean for you not to go?

Anyway, I am hitting the town up tonight. He is working, so hopefully he does a bar walk through and I run into him cause he has no idea I'm going out tonight. I need to get out and get this off my mind.

If you want to get this off of your mind, why do you hope he runs into you?

I think you're starting to backslide. You've got him home, and want to push through to the happy ending; but he won't do this on your timetable.

Besides, you have bigger fish to fry. Once you have the Mama Bear talk, you may not want to be there with him.