Can I save my marriage?

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Gucci, Love it. In a way you almost geared that directly to "me". I am not a confrontational person, and i feel so much comfortable going about it this way. I think it will be so good for me. I am going to take your advice for sure. I not only feel good about it, but I feel comfortable about it. Even the wording example is exactly how I would say it. Not harsh or abrubt or blunt, but soft and to the point. I thank you so much as this is my plan. I'm not sure how long it will take for him to notice something is up, but if I do a good job, hopefully sooner than later.

Trent,

...or you can tell him what you are going to do, and let him react for a change.

This is an awesome point. I think when I've showed that in the past it is what got my H thinking. Hopefully Gucci's idea works. I feel like the approach is "me".

I was in our family email today and we got an email inviting the family to the "Police Family Christmas Party". I clicked on the "sent" messages folder and sure enough he rsvp'd for the two boys and himself. Not me....hmmm. Now I'm really wondering why he is here. If he was here to get this family back together, would he not want me to be there? I mean the guy moved back home, woke up early today on work day number 3 and hung out with us as a family, asked us to go for supper together as a family, told S3 he lives here now and stays here every single night, but doesn't include me in the FAMILY CHRISTMAS PARTY? I don't get it.

Anyway, I am hitting the town up tonight. He is working, so hopefully he does a bar walk through and I run into him cause he has no idea I'm going out tonight. I need to get out and get this off my mind. Hope everybody is having a great night.