IMO the boys should not have to be a part of your DB strategy... go ahead and let them call him but you don't have to talk!!!
I didn't realize you lived in Ireland. Was divorce illegal because many people are Catholic?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004