Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

Also an interesting thing happened on Thursday. That day, when I left after school I did not tell the babysitter to log off my Facebook before W got home.

When I got to work, I went in and deleted all of the messages where I was down or mopey. I left all the happy, conversational ones in there, including the ones to a friend in Chicago that I went to visit and a lady that I've gone to see two bands and a movie with -- albeit in a group.

Friday, after school, I checked the computer history and W had gone through all of my Facebook, particularly stopping to read the messages from the night before Thanksgiving when we went to see two bands play in downtown. She also went on my friend's page and looked through her pictures.

I called my aunt to talk about it. She said it doesn't mean W is necessarily jealous or curious about what I'm doing. She said she may have just been checking to see if I've been running her down online -- which I haven't.

Ok, this could just be me, but this sounds very manipulative and sneaky. Why do all of that? What were you really trying to accomplish through this?

Why let her see what you have been doing at all? Why manipulate the data to fit what you want her to see? Is that real? It's not a true picture of what is going on with you. I'm not saying you should lay everything out there, but changing the contents of your FB information so that your W sees specific info is extreme.

So again, what is the motivation? Why do you want her accessing your stuff? Snooping isn't attractive in anyone so how does it make you feel to know that she was looking at all of that? Also, curious, how could you know how much time she spent on the pages and that she was even there? Is there some sort of history item in FB?