Frank, I am not trying to be a dick here or anything, but this:
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She shared with me that when she went to her grandmothers on Friday for thanksgiving dinner, when she walked in the house and saw OM there, she had a breakdown.
She said she was used to seeing him at her moms condo, but being at a 'family' event seemed so wrong to her, that he shouldn't be there.
She said she just lost it and cried and ended up going into the bedroom with her boyfriend and sobbing.
She said her mom came in to talk to her, telling D18 that she is an adult and needed to act like one. D18 said 'mom was really angry at me'. D18 said she told her mom "I may be an adult, but I'm also your DAUGHTER". D18 said that after this, XW was visibly shaken.
Anyway, D18 said dinner went well and there were no more incidents. She also said that since they've been back, her relationship with her mom is different. Her mom seems to be affected by what happened.
I think this is the first time XW has actually seen the pain she has caused. Up till now she has seen anger.
D18 and I are getting closer. She told me that she likes living with me because I'm a parent, and I act like one.
Somehow I'm going to make my life work, and my daughters lives also. I'm getting over everything and not feeling sorry for myself any more.
Happens way to often in your world. These conversations need to stop and you need to teach your kids to deal with their mom and that relationship that they have with her. You seem to care way to much about what is going on in her world and allow the kids relationship with their mom to become a substitute for your own relationship with her.
It is becoming a rare occasion to have a post from Frank that is about Frank and not about his kids and their mom, or Frank and their mom, or their mom and her family, or their mom and her boyfriend. Don't you want to quit caring about all that nonsense at this point?
