Sorry PMA, but I don't agree in this case b/c he did let her know many times how he felt. He did let his defenses down and I think he was at a place one time that he was willing to work on forgiving and make a go of the R for the kids' sake. But his WW is so selfish and has taken advantage of him every way she can think of. I remember how he was thoughtful and showed respect, even though she sure didn't deserve it. She has not shown any moves that even hinted at wanting to work at a R with him, but has teased his emotions enough to keep him in a tiszy....until he finally got tough enough to stop playing games with her. I hope he will be able to find forgiveness.....but for his own peace and not for her sake, necessarily. JMHO, but even if he forgave her and she was willing to go back and live with him, she would not be faithful to him and would continue to put him through h*ll.
CIPA, I think you can expect her make a sexual advance toward you in the very near future. It will be her despart attempt at getting you to submit to her wishes and accept a lot less money from her. Yes, divorce is a b*tch......but then, I think she is also! Sorry If I am being ugly but I think the woman deserves to get hit with anything the court throw at her.
Just wanted you to be prepared to expect the unexpected b/c I don't think she is fully convinced that she can't wrap you around her little finger. However, after everything that she's put you through, I believe you have wised up to what she is capable of doing. I was proud of how you reminded her of what was said when she was wanting "you" to fork over the money.
Next year just has to be a better year for you!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
