I had thought about you contacting OM's W......but the OM has much more to lose in the M. If you tell his W and she kicks him out.....then he'll go straight for your W.
If he's worried that his W will find out about his playing around, then he will lose his meal ticket in fancy places. Just my thoughts.
I’ve considered this, Sandi, and you make a good point.
My thought is that the kind of evidence a good P.I. will produce (photographs, etc.) will be overwhelming. W’s family is very large and conservative Christian down to the last one – as are her two best friends. They would be aghast at the revelation that W was shacking up with a married man. Actually, they do not approve of the separation. They aren’t openly taking sides, but in principle they are on my side; “Norm is right. You should go back to your husband and work on your marriage.” The only thing worse than leaving your husband (barring infidelity and abuse – and there hasn’t been any on my part) is leaving your husband for a married man as far as her family is concerned. Her family is very close-knit and very important to her. I don’t think she could handle the level of shock and disappointment such a revelation would produce, much less run off with the guy if his wife kicks him out. Possession of such evidence would give me tremendous leverage.
Besides, OM is having sex with my wife. Grrrrr!! Why should I let him off the hook? Consequences.
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
