P17, I am so happy for this site, you have no idea - and you are ok for laughing - it is funny I am sure from the outside. I burst into tears when reading it though because my first thought was:"He is not coming back home, ever." I will take your 180 suggestion and stop answering straight away - it's a good idea - and from January on I have enough money to keep me over water for a while on my own in case I need to which takes the pressure off. He said to me yesterday if we ever have a conversation like this agin he will cut me out of the account.Or better he won't lodge money into it anymore.He thinks I am completely depending on him financially but that will change soon.
