Sounds as if you are "guilty" of being a man. Don't worry about the emotional abuse claims b/c she has to find something to try to justify her reason for leaving you and finding OM. Is the OM M?

Her mother is a fool if she doesn't realize what her D is doing. People who think EA's are not wrong or not serious has a lot of shock in store for them.

I think the more you physically detach yourself from your W, the better. She won't miss you as long as you communicate with her or try to be with her.....even for the kids' sake. I don't think she will change her mind before Christmas b/c that is too soon and she's in too deep. She's ruined her reputation so she feels that she needs to go all the way with her plans, now.

Talk to you later.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!