Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

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Ok, just got off the phone with S12. He told me W let him have a sleepover last night with 2 friends. W told S12 that she had some things to do at work, and left. One of the friends father called every hour, checking on his son, who is also 12. At around 330 am, he came and picked up his son, when his son told him that my W wasn't there. My W didn't come home until 0800-0900. Now I am extremely pissed and hurt for that boy, and also that my W left them alone ALL night. I really need some advice on this, as I am so pissed, i don't want to do anything wrong. Thanks.

Document, document, document. AND... do you know this daddy who picked up his son from the sleepover? Might want to touch base with him when you get back home - just to verify the particulars of this story.

You're going to want to get on the phone and blast Mother of the Year for this irresponsible behavior. Do not. You will be home next week - make contact with a nextdoor neighbor or friend in close proximity to your house. Ask this person to be your sons' 'go to' if W ever does this again. Let your boys know and then let W know "W, I'm aware of occassions when you have left our sons home alone all night without an adult. I have told the boys that if this happens again, they are to call so-and-so to come pick them up. I will not allow my boys to be put in peril of being home alone at night without an adult present." This isn't up for debate with her - she'll probably want to make the case for them being old enough, responsible enough, nothing happened...whatev. You will not discuss it - just lay down the boundary and walk away b/c that's that with that.

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