SD: I have been following this site for a while and your thread in particular. And I think I can shed some light on what you might encounter depending on the PI's report. I feel that we are on the same train line, but I am a few minutes further down the track than you are. I also have a perspective on how to deal with the W while you are home for the R&R visit. I am in month 4 of face to face "same house, same bed" involvement with my WAW. I would not leave my house, or my bed, and neither should you!!
I know you want info. but I want to wait and find out from Greek and Coach, when is the best time for you to be thinking about all this. No need to focus on extraneous events that might not even be real(ie. no OM). This is stuff you need to know before the PI's report but you do not need to dwell on it.
Keep strong, and you are right, she is not the woman you married!!
Watcher M45 W46 M 24yrs T 24yrs S16 D14 "ILYBANILWY" 8/09 Same house same bed