WAW on suicide watch, what now???

[MHL]

Sandi,
I hear what you are saying about getting a lawyer and trying to get the pics. OM's W is reluctant to give them to me, I am not sure why, maybe she thinks that it would hurt the rebuilding of te R between her and her H. I think my W told/lied to OM that I was trying to keep kids from her, I was abusive, non-loving etc. same old WAW stuff, and he sympathizes with my W and knows those pics would eliminate any chances of custody, alimony etc. for her. I think she has lied so much and to so many people that she actually believes it herself, she has created her own reality. The bottom line is that she does not want custody, her lawyer's letter to me stated that she wanted visitation not custody. Any type of custody would take away her precious freedom.
I would love to have the pics but the lawyer I consulted with says it really doesn't matter unless we go to court, which is very expensive and we would both be letting someone else make decisions for us. While I may "feel" that I want to prove to the world what a $#@*^% my W has been, the court/judge does not get emotional about it and therefore the pics are not that important. Additionally this A was post-separation and while it is illicit, it would not weigh as heavily as the first A which was pre-separation. My Father felt the same way as you at first, "stick it to her!!". This is just another attempt to get me to play her game. In this case, I would be paying a top gun lawyer to draft a separation aggreemet that she wants not me an I my lawyer would end up doing all the work and charging me. I am sitting back for a few days to see what comes next. The last line of the letter from her lawyer said, "if you don't follow any of these directives or fail to contact me back within 7 days, I will be forced to ADVISE your W to file a law suit." I say bring it on, she knows she does not have a case for anything.