how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Oh, I don't know. The results of her pregnancy test? her acceptance to a school far far away?

I certainly don't want to get the sex toys catalogue!

It may be that I don't want them to know that I got this. Don't know how that helps. Or hurts.

I also worry that they are "plotting" to get me out of the house; her telling the bank that this is HER address gave me a heads up that the X may have been reassuring her: "don't worry. Avermont will be outta there soon. Just give the house as your address."

So...maybe not good reasons, but at the moment it isn't hurting anything to hold on to the one piece. It was just an informational thing from the bank, nothing major.

Thanks for the advice, though.

I am feeling total roller-coaster about sending such a cold reply to the his friendly bill-paying note. He had added in other little bits of news. And I just responded with "bills paid. All OK. Review bills with me if you want."

So that's the conflict! Respond to friendly with friendly, and then it is just as cutterbug described: X gets to sit back, life is good, Avermont is fine, la la la...

Or WHAT IF--and I know I get a 2x4 for this--his friendly little email was a reaching out?

How am I to know if a friendly email from him is him testing the waters, or just luxuriating in the joy of me pining for him while OW satisfies all his other needs?

How do I know?