In my opinion, you can't know the results of a conversation about something without actually having the conversation. And sporadic emails is no way to really talk to someone. Why not tell him that when he comes back you and he will talk? If he doesn't intend to be home before Xmas, then the talk will wait. If he wants to get answers to his question, he will have to show up and have the conversation.
This is EXCELLENT advice.
Dudess, you're currently living in limbo. Perhaps its time to stir the pot and rattle his cage. It sounds like he has the time and resources to continue his gallivanting indefinitely while you remain to mind the store.
An alternative to Lotus' suggestion is to reply with a blank email titled: "We need to talk, call me" He'll probably delay a day or two before replying in an email with something like "what do you want to talk about?" Ignore all emails until he calls you. Then have it out over the phone. Don't tell him what you're planning, just tell him about all the hurt he's caused you. Then ask him if he feels good about himself and hang up. In the call you don't ask him when he's coming home, you don't mention what you have decided. After the call you go NO CONTACT. I.e You add in "the girl who disappeared" element too.
Never mind, I think Gucci said it best.
Last edited by Gnosis; 12/05/0901:11 PM.
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