Stick with it and remind her occasionally when sshe falls back into old patterns, just as she should remind you when you fall back onto old patterns as well. : )
this is SO true!!! At least in my sitch.
Thanks, Three Beans!
Puppy
Me too Jack. It's funny, you spend so long trying to get your spouse to wake up, work hard on changes to make you a better person, that when you do reconcile it's easy to forget what got you there.
W has started slipping back into old ways a few times and where in the past I'd just let it anger me and not say anything, now I'm being more vocal and expressing my wants and needs and she responds. Same with her when it comes to me.
We've both made a commitment to each other that we WILL work through things because we don't want to screw it up again, but sometimes there needs to be a little reminder.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
