I don't know anything about the tigerwoods thing, but remember, it always takes 2 people. The reason people have A's (unless they have a sex addiction, or some other addiction) is because their lacking a need in their marriage. this has to do with the 5LLs. Of course having an A is not the answer to that problem, but it always takes 2 people for a marriage to go bad.
and hopefully he does repent and try to make things work. D's are damaging to everyone involed, even the grandparents, cousins, etc.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
oh, SO2... is B posting anymore? I don't see anything on FB either. how is she doing?
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thank goodness for the emails. I would be a bigger mess. What the heck is happening to me? I have been stronger in this are for the past 18 months. He called and texted all night long. We chatted about his brother that is doing really well. I even got a fake tree this year because being single, with a baby and dealing with a real tree by yourself is such a pain. When exh saw it yesterday he was disappointed. He said he was looking forward to doing the tree thing with us! WTF! Where was he last year when I had a 9 month old all by myself? Oh yeah...with OW!
ST...about B. I don't think she is posting much if at all. She is doing really well though and seems to be having alot of fun. We talk once in awhile and I see she is busy on FB! She has an account under her real name. If you want, send me a message on FB and I will give you her real name.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
I don't like this feeling. I am actually looking forward to him visiting this morning. I used to dread it! I want that back!
No emails from married gf for a few days. She is a drama queen like he said and I know that must get old. One of her emails from the other day when she was mad at him said she is having dangerous life threatning surgery next week and she doesnt need to feel this way..but she is "the one" and he will realize that one day...maybe after she doesn't make it through this surgery. Oh please...she acts like she is having a brain tumor removed! She is having endometriosis surgery. A few of my friends had that and it wasn't that big of a deal. His responses don't change the status of not being with her, but they leave the door cracked open just in case.
UGGHHHH>...
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
It is good to see feelings returning towards your H even if they are because of a dry spell. lol. 19 months is a long time. It has been 10 months for me and sometimes it feels like it is killing me when I look at W. I just want to take a few minutes with her back in the bedroom and take care of that spell. lol.
Anyways, I can understand your frusturation with him leaving that door just slightly cracked for the drama queen. At the same time, he does appear to be moving back towards you slow as it may be. These things don't usually all of a sudden change over night. Once there starts to be some form of movement back, it can often still take a while to get fully back to where it should be. I am hoping for the best for you. But I think you need to continue to keep your cool and try to keep you expectations low for the mean time. This will help in you not becoming overly disapointed if things don't move as fast as you would like.
You are doing good SO2. Keep on doing what you need to and let the chips fall where they may. Don't try and force it. Just let it happen if it is going to happen. This way you don't make a mistake and push him further away if he is starting to make that slow progression of coming back.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Thanks Kevin. Nice to feel some feelings in that area as I haven't felt them in a long time. Not sure why..maybe because with the small baby and no social life it wasn't even an option. Plus when exh was involved with OW and then married gf he disgusted me. I would be so foolish to think he is not with mgf or anyone else right now. Exwives don't make very good booty calls! Too many strings attached and too many feelings. I hope he gets that.
This is a record for me. I haven't ever gone this long. Like I said before I haven't really had the time or desire to until lately.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I have preferred to look at it as a good test of character! I have no other choice
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
hey, have you made a decision on exh spending the night?
you better be careful...I don't think you would ever do anything, but with your new change of emotions... you don't want to allow yourself to be in a position for something to actually happen. not with how he is right now, he doesn't deserve to have you yet.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Hi St and others...well as I posted to you last night on FB, exh was texting all day asking how we were. Last night I asked if he would like to come and decorate the xmas tree with us. He said he couldn't. I am assuming he was drinking and knew he couldnt be here that way.But started texting these sexual texts. He also wanted me to send him a pic of myself...and not with clothes on! I laughed, but did not send. Next thing I know I get a pic of him...without clothes on. I didn't respond but laughed. Then I sort of felt strange wondering if I was the only one he was asking for pics. I did make a comment about that and he got defensive and told me to quit asking him if he is with her because hes not.
This morning is babys dedication. I wonder how he will feel knowing he sent me nasty pics of himself just last night!
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Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
