ssmguy said: So she doesn't even want other people, not even her doctor, to know we have a sexless marriage.
Then here is your tool, man. She doesn't want other people to "know". This might actually cause her to CHANGE if they DID know. Sure it would be embarassing, who cares? She is afraid of embarassment, so use it to your benefit.
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Another way to use the embarassment to your benefit is to mention your sexless marriage in a joking way in front of her to friends when the opportunity arises.
Oh, you're right on my wavelength. I've done that a good bit over the years, but have toned down recently to give her space. It may be time to kick that up a notch again!
I've also used the "reverse" complaint, which gets around putting her on the defensive. Such as saying, "Why would you want to spend the evening with me when you know I'm probably going to get amorous and want to have sex?!"
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The only real problem in your situation is that you've let it go on too long by letting her bully you into shutting up about it, to her or to anyone else.
It's been a long time, but I'm not afraid of picking it up again. You all have convinced me of at least that the last few days!
And I never fail to point out all those recent medical reports of the health benefits of sex.
