My WAW claimed for the entire summer that her unhappiness was absolutely not related to the move or her having to seek full time teaching work. Then two days after she moved out, she screamed that she had to subordinate her career to mine.
I told her Mom about the EA soon after the first admittance of the EA in Sept. what her daughter was doing. Her response was "she hasn't done anything wrong" because it wasn't PA then. Her Mom has $$$ and is funding her life without any moral compass attached. It is the easiest thing for Mom to do, and Mom must think this is the fastest way for her daughter to "get away from the pain."
WAW has minimized or failed to mention the affair to anyone in our lives who would object.
I have not talked to the OM at all. My WAW was always the one pushing the EA. Her phone calls and texts were 90+% outbound to him when she was here. He was meeting her at whatever EA level she wanted but not escalating. Now, who knows?
I will let her know that if she ends her affair I will absolutely not hold it over her head for the rest of her life when the time is right.
I am just short of gleeful that the affair has become an "open secret" at the middle school where OM teaches full-time and WAW substitutes.
