10 minutes later after dropping them with her sister, she drops the bomb.. This cant go on, I ask what? "I dont love you any more"
So this is what she said when she hit you with the bomb, but now she's saying that she never meant she didn't love you, but indeed cares deeply about you. She doesn't know how to express how she's feeling? Didn't she tell you ILYBINILWY? That is the "speech" that all WAW'S tell the LBH......doesn't she know the script yet?
Well, here's the thing.......she does love you but she isn't feeling sexual attraction to you. Her heart craves romance and that is why she's been vulnerable to an A. She no longer feels that you fit the bill for her. I even told some of my family that my H felt more like a brother to me than a H.
There is something that is causing her to cake eat here. She throws out just enough crumbs at you to get you all perplexed and wondering what she's going to do next. That's why you need to move on ahead with your life while she gests where act starighten out.
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So jealousy is the Key?
I believe it is an important key, but not the only key. If she has issues of suspecting you in an A, then you will want to be careful that you do not give impressions or say anything to imply that. However, I feel that you could do as I laid out in the last post and it not actually imply you are in an A. What she thinks will be up to her. I do think jealousy is good to a point.....in other words by her seeing that some other woman is interested in you, it makes your W take a new look at you and have to accept that she does in fact see a sexy man that she is trying to give up. If she feels the sting of jealousy....then that is a good sign. If she did not feel a thing for you......she would feel no jealousy at all.
If you have taken your rings off.....then how do you feel about dating? Does that go against your personal standards?
It doing all of those things together that works for the M.
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In a nutshell she told me that she doesnt know the reason she feels like she feels. She does however feel under constant pressure from the situation, her parents and their views, what about the children, work/promotion etc...
Well I certainly know what a long time of living under pressure does to a person......and it's almost as if the body jumps straight up out in rebellion to preserve itself. That's why I said she was vulnerable for an A.
Hate to cut out on you, but my medication is hitting me. Better go.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
