I'm generally not in favor of confronting OM/OW directly, and it's always been kind of a consensus around here (along with "don't leave the marital home/bedroom"). Some reasons are:
- you may not be able to control your emotions;
- you may try to take what he tells you as the truth, and use it tactically, when OM/OW always lie;
- IT ELEVATES THEM IN IMPORTANCE (think "leader of a rag-tag terrorist band, meeting directly with POTUS);
- it usually gives the illicit couple something to laugh about, at your expense -- paradoxically, they see you as WEAK;
- you may reveal something you don't want to reveal.
I never did, although I did walk into the gym once, look him right in the eye when he was working behind the counter (he looked like he was about to wet himself -- he turned sheet-white!), I got within about six feet of him . . .
. . . and I WINKED at him.
That was pretty funny. And I exposed their affair to his parents (he still lived at home with them, at age 28!). But other than that, I never confronted him directly.
I will say that I think it was either Gucci or Robx -- I'm pretty sure it was Gucci -- that had a different take on it, that I thought was interesting. You may want to see him out.
