Can I save my marriage?

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So, thanks again everybody. However I kind of disagree. Don't get mad! I just feel had I been there then yes I should have said something, but I was not present. I have not been present when he has been parenting for the past two months, why now should I be butting in to his parenting. Had I been there it would have been a different story. This has been hard enough on my sister I want to respect her wishes as she wants to keep a clean relationship with H. H is learning on his own how much this damaged S3 as S lets him know almost every time he sees him. Drilling him on his intentions. I think I will leave it until I am present.

Went out for the day and when I got home H wasn't here. He called two hours later asking if the boys and I wanted to grab something to eat for dinner. I had some company at the time so declined. It just bothers me that now that he has no plans, we're good enough to hang out with. But the last two nights he's had hockey and didn't have time for the kids or I. Nice.

So talked to H's sister for the first time today since he moved home. I asked her if he what he said when he left. And she said not much just that he was moving home again. She feels he wants to work on things. She doesn't think he would move here just for convenience. She doesn't think he wants to be roomates till we figure it out. He mentioned the other day to her that the changes that needed to be made are changing ( referring to me) and he understands they can't be made over night so he's willing to give me time. Its time to talk to me about it.

Thanks again everybody for your help. Gonna get by the next 3 days, till H is on days off for 5 days, and find some good quality time to talk to him about this.