there is something many, many BSs have said on other forums that I think is true:
MC is useless while they are in the A.

I did it with WH during false R. We went a couple of times after DDay #2, when I gave him ultimatum, while I was still pregnant--didn't do any good. And my WH was real sorry, crying for hurting me, and hasn't acted like a jerk to me (aside from cheating on me)but it didn't help him to end the A.

Many BSs say that sometimes the WS agrees to go in order to say "see? I tried everything I could to work on the marriage but it was useless."

How long do you think your H's A has lasted now? Do you think it started before he moved out?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004