Hi Sandi, it gas helped alot. I have done some of the things you mentioned above today.
I did see her this morning for about 5 minutes as I had to get some clothes for my son. We were both supposed to take him for Santa photos tomorrow, but I took him today. ( my sister wanted some photos with her son and mine ) so, w has missed out on being there. She couldn't make it today as she had to work.
I also told her that I can't take our son to karate on Monday night cause I won't be home. I told her I would take him on Tuesday instead. She asked if I could take him on wednesday and I said I won't be home on Wednesday night either. ( I've got 2 Christmas parties this week but she doesn't know that I'm going to them on Monday and Wednesday ). I also told her that I'll be dropping him off earlier next Saturday as I'm going out ( going to a concert ), but she doesn't know that.
I hav'nt been needy or looked upset when I have seen her, I'm doing the opposite. I don't see her often, maybe once a week, but we do talk most days cause of our son.
I've lost alot of weight so I've brought new clothes that fit me better, and I must say, I think I look pretty good ( do mean to blow my own trumpet here).
I've also told her that I can't take our son on new years eve cause I have plans. She will be staying home with him now. Her mum and sister are going out though, so she will be home alone once our son goes to bed.
When I was leaving this morning, she was staring at me, and when I looked up, she looked away. I think the last week has been good for me. I have detached, and I'm starting to get a busy social life. I've even had another woman flirting with me which has done wonders for my confidance.
I've also spent the last week thinking about whether the marriage is best for me. Don't get me wrong, I want to be with her, but looking at the negatives has helped me detach a little better.
I appreciate your view on things Sandi and it's good to hear it first hand from an almost waw.
