Had another thought (my mind is whirring – know you know the feeling). My sitch being what it is – the OM is working out in MY gym with MY wife – I could approach OM.
Follow him out to the parking lot and say something like, “I have all the evidence I need to back up what I’m about to say, so there is no argument. <firm but not hostile> Stop f@#$cking my wife NOW.. Do not EVER contact her again. Do not EVER come back to my gym again.” Then, turn and walk way.
He doesn’t know what I know (the extent of my intel). He doesn’t know how I know it. All he knows is that I know. He’s a cop. He knows that there are many ways get information. It’s a bluff, but how can he verify that?
All men understand the unwritten law; “Mess around with another man’s wife and you’ll face his fury.” He’s a cop, but he’s still a man – and a married man to boot. And as strange as it may seem to hear me say this, he seems like a really sweet guy. My W wouldn’t be attracted to anything else. The two of them are making a very human mistake…”the grass is greener”. It just needs to be stopped.
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
