The move was initially my idea because the job was such a better position and the location is ideal for our family's interests. My recollection is that we discussed it and jointly decided to make the move because it was in the family's best interests. Her recollection now is that I alone decided.
We decided early in our marriage that my career was first because I earn so much more money. she stayed home and half-time taught to be with our boys for 6 years.
She is an extraordinary teacher. Now I'm thinking she wasn't hired full-time because Mgt. knew about her EA which started at the school where she subbed last year. The EA/PA is an open secret at the school now.
Many people know about the affair. Our family friends, my close friends, our pastor, our previous pastor, some of her friends must know. However, she omitted the affair when telling her family and some friends about her separation.
I will continue to be very cordial and keep to business about our S7 and S4 when talking to her.
I am willing to give time, but I cannot be married to someone in an affair.
I would love to make sure she knows she has a welcoming, soft place to land. Ideas for how to say it without appearing feeble?
