She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

sandi, thanks.
I'm trying to calm down and get this together. this afternoon I started to make a yearly statement for my self-employed business. I had removed all the records from the computer. I saw a post today that mentioned removing all records from the house, and I remembered some hard copies. I looked for them and discovered that they are all gone. I checked the phone records, and W called a forensic accountant today. She's always done the books for my business, so I can only assume she is trying to build some bogus case against me.

Time and again, I'm missing things that I should be on top of. I've got to get smarter.

I'm pretty furious now, so I left the house to get some space for me. I want to figure out how to calm the sitch down. Does she realize how much this will cost, and what it will do to the kids?

I'll read some more about dropping the rope, but I don't see how I can drop it anymore than I already am. I have almost no contact with her at all, and as far as she knows I am just moving on. but maybe I'm not doing it well at all, and she knows it. I just don't know.

As I think about it, I think I've too hostile/confrontational instead of a calm strong man. Maybe she is offensive is a reaction to her perceiving that I'm attacking her? Again, I don't know.

It keeps running through my mind that I should talk to her about mediation or some compromise for the kids sake, point out that all the money we are about to spend could go to the kids needs. but I think this is the opposite of dropping the rope, but I've got the horrible need to do something. I'm resisting it by not being home right now. Someone should 2x4 me hard.