I would have to agree w/Rob. (Not that I blame you....), But you don't sound like you want to be married to him either!
Fairly short marriage, no kids, long distance R, and a lack of desire to want to be together (on both sides).
Could be that my posts of late have presented a very one sided picture. I also realize that I was not posting here much during the time last year when things were going very well between us. I am here because I still have some hope that I might have a good marriage with this man. (Oh, and it is not a long distance relationship. He does not live elsewhere. We have only been apart these past 4 months.) It is a relatively short marriage, but it is a 9 year relationship. There is a lot of history there.
Oh, course I don't want to be married to someone who cancels vacations because he became obssessed with someone else. That's not the man I married. Isn't something similar true for many people here? They do want their spouse, but not if their spouse is going to keep screwing someone else?
The man I married was my favorite person to talk to, and I was his. We had lots of fun together. We had passionate, frequent sex. He is very intelligent, interesting, knowledgeable. He makes me laugh a lot. We have a lot in common in many ways. That's the guy I married.
But he began to treat me differently as soon as we married. I don't know exactly what that is about. I do think that his renewed obsession with the unattainable woman may be a clue. Did he lose interest because he 'caught me"? Based on some things I said, Gucci seemed to think my H really goes for the hard to get woman, and suggested I give him that challenge in a big way.
