What was he hoping to get out of that relationship that he couldn't get from you?
What if he needed constant attention, having everything his way and the chemical romance that is particular to new relationships?
Is she to jump through hoops trying to accommodate that?
The further I get in this process, the more I realize that the proof is in the pudding. Sometimes people end up where they want to be regardless of who they married. Meaning, based on my priorities and my values, I am sticking by my kids and my H is circling the globe seeking stimulation, adulation, attention, etc. He has wants that no single woman could accommodate without being a serious sh*t-eater. As it stands, I have happily cultivated my more impulsive side and how to have more fun. But, I'm not gonna abandon my kids and jump on his train.
I have no idea if this is making sense.
It is perfectly fine for people on these boards to determine that their spouses expectations are just not reachable or conducive to bringing us happiness.
So, because the H throws a little breadcrumb about Christmas, doesn't mean Dudess wants to jump on it and cosign that H having whatever he wants whenever he wants is A-okay. This is always tough to figure out. How available am I for the good stuff, if you refuse to co-handle the tough stuff? I am working that out for myself.
